Christian Marriage: True love, True friendship

6287240997_53ff1460da_z_heartbible_honorbound_flickrLove is patient and kind.  

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  

Love does not demand its own way.  

Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.   It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Love will last forever, but prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will all disappear.

1 Corinthians 13: 4 – 8 (NLT)

  • After using this often-quoted scripture last weekend, as I toasted the Groom at the rehearsal dinner, it seemed a fitting topic for this post.   I was a Groomsman at the New York wedding of my brother.
  • Clearly, those who fall in love and marry -but haven’t truly befriended one another also- could have a very rocky road ahead in their Marriage.   Romantic love isn’t ‘friendship love’.   Without the latter, I believe a long, solid union isn’t likely; without the former, the union would never have started.
  • Friend, Acquaintance, or Stranger?   There’s a distinct difference between a Close Acquaintance and a Close Friend.   Moreover, if God isn’t a friend to both the husband and wife, is it really a Christian union?   As the hymn goes, ‘what a friend we have in Jesus, all our sins and griefs to bear.’ (Agape love alert!)
  • This is one of my favorite Bible verses.

 Greg Silverthorne, 66 Assurance Way

Photo Credithonorbound/ flickrCC


2 thoughts on “Christian Marriage: True love, True friendship

  1. I believe Paul’s definition of love is a definition of “true” love. True love is humble and other-centered. Romantic love if often self-centered – it’s all about how the other person makes me feel. Like you, this is one of my favorite verses. Cheerio

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    • Yes, the ‘center’ of each is VERY different. Is there any doubt which an enduring Christian marriage should be based? Letting the center of your love me your spouse, and God, is quite powerful. If romantic love serves as the sole foundation, the couple aren’t likely to be happily together very long (smile). In short, properly acknowledge all 3 types of love. Paul’s 1 Corinthian 13 is indeed a classic description of other-centered, “true” love. Grace and mercy to you.


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